Tantric Writing

So…I’ve begun to study tantra, which the concept of tantra isn’t just about great sex but about creating intimacy, healing past hurts, and using sexual energy to be productive and successful in society.  I realized that as writers, our goal is to connect with a reader so that whatever message we’re trying to convey gets across, thus, what I call Tantric Writing. I don’t know if that’s a true writing concept or a term someone else is already using, but it’s what I’m calling it.

I think a better way to describe this would be to create intimacy between you and the reader. How can you enter the reader’s mind and create an intimate bond? That’s where true creativity lies and where a reader really connects and feels s/he has learned something from your writing.

The question is, how do you create intimacy from you to your reader? While the answer is simple, the execution is very, very hard. Intimacy is created through our vulnerabilities and revealing our souls–our past hurts, our joys, our sorrows, and everything in between. We have to reveal our true selves in our writing–put ourselves in our writing, our experiences, our dreams, our hearts–creating intimacy and a connection the reader will never forget.

Looking back at my early drafts of Blood Promise, I can see that it took a while for me to build intimacy and to put myself in the book. I was hurting a lot–I’d just went through a divorce–but wasn’t yet ready to let go of the pain and so I held it very close to me. Something I’ve learned from tantra though is that when we hold onto pain, we’re simply reliving the event over and over again and become a prisoner to it. It took me about five years before I was ready to let go of the pain, and that’s when I really put myself in my work. You can see it now in Blood Promise–I reveal my soul for the world to see. But isn’t that what every great artist does, whether it’s music, painting, drawing, writing, poetry–you name it–the truly greats pour out their hearts and show their vulnerabilities and create intimacy and a connection we never forget.

One fact about Blood Promise–my father died of ALS while I was writing the book. I wrote a poem for his funeral, and that poem is now immortalized forever in Blood Promise.

If you want to read Blood Promise and connect with me, you can get it free on Kindle Unlimited or buy it from Amazon.

With a murderous beast on her heels and a conniving daemon who wants to use her for his own means, Tora Hayden’s main objective is to keep herself and those she cares about alive.

Amazon.com >  http://www.amazon.com/dp/B01LWDEZXK

Amazon.co.uk >  http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B01LWDEZXK

Amazon.ca >  http://www.amazon.ca/dp/B01LWDEZXK

Amazon.com.au >  http://www.amazon.com.au/dp/B01LWDEZXK


2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Liz
    Apr 19, 2017 @ 22:07:17

    So sorry to hear about your dad. What a beautiful way to honor him with your poem in the book.

    Writing can be very cathartic. I started writing again in earnest after my dad died and haven’t stopped. But then I don’t talk about his death either – sometimes I find the absentee father in all my books, it’s like a running theme but I’m not aware of it until I reread my stuff later on and notice how my heroines don’t have fathers or have fathers whom they don’t connect with. I’m sure others who know me in real life probably pick it up faster than I do but it’s why I write, too, to process the world around me at my own pace.

    Glad to see you back blogging again. It’s been awhile!


    • tonyakerrigan
      Apr 20, 2017 @ 00:35:35

      I’m sorry to hear about your dad too. I haven’t been on in a while because I’ve had some personal stuff going on, which will probably find its way into a book. I’m still dealing with stuff but I’m getting a better handle on things and understanding more what’s going on around me. I’m also gearing up to write the next book, but I feel like there’s more I need to learn before I can really write it, so it’s sort of at a standstill right now.


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